Before Pantone Color Chips, There Was This 300-Year-Old Book

Photo: Aix-en-Provence, bibliothèque Méjanes, Ms 1389 (1228).

The announcement of the Pantone Color of the Year has become something of an annual phenomenon. As the recognized authority on color and color trends, Pantone doesn’t simply suggest you keep your eyes peeled for Radiant Orchid, Emerald, or Marsala for the next 12 months, it practically guarantees that you’ll be seeing the shade everywhere — on cars, bed sheets, nail polishes, back-to-school supplies, you name it. But as instrumental as the company has become since its launch in 1963, someone else was doing the job nearly 300 years before. And he did it all by hand.

The 1692 Dutch book, listed in French records as Traité des couleurs servant à la peinture à l’eau, was brought to the public’s attention about a year ago by Dutch historian Erik Kwakkel. Loosely translated, the title means “color treated for water-based paint,” which hints at the handiwork inside by author A. Boogert. As Kwakkel explains, this one-of-a-kind book was created to demonstrate how watercolors could be manipulated to change shade when different measurements of water were added to the mixture. Boogert filled his approximately 800 pages with every example imaginable.

Photo: Aix-en-Provence, bibliothèque Méjanes, Ms 1389 (1228).

Beyond being informational, the images from the book are stunning and addictive to flip through. They resemble page after page of Pantone color chips, except without the household name. But this manuscript wasn't a means of referencing fashion trends or your next lipstick shade (as far as we know). Kwakkel reports that the purpose of this book was likely educational. "In the 17th century, an age known as the Golden Age of Dutch Painting, this manual would have hit the right spot." Of course, we can't help but think how relevant this work still is today, no matter how advanced our printing techniques have become. (On the other hand, in 800 pages, did the author ever name a color Marsala?) 

The book is currently housed at Bibliothèque Méjanes in Aix-en-Provence, and more of Kwakkel's translation can be found here.

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9 Spectacular Underwater Hotels

Why just swim in the sea when you can sleep in the sea? And, while you're at it, you can get a massage underwater, dine like a king underwater, and do, um, other things underwater. All while appreciating the blueness of the ocean, the dancing schools of fish, and the electrifying coral reefs. 

Luckily, we live in the 21st century, and there is a small handful of real-life hotels that make it possible for guests to do all that and more. From partially submerged luxury suites to actual submarine stays, read on for nine incredible underwater hotels where you can spend a night sleeping with the fishes, literally. 

Ocean Suites At Sentosa, Singapore
For mermaid wannabes who like to bask on dry land, too, Sentosa resort offers 11 luxury suites, each with two levels: one above water, one below. Upper levels feature open living spaces, outdoor patios, and Jacuzzis; downstairs, submerged bedrooms with glass walls allow guests to observe scores of marine life, so you can fall asleep counting fish rather than sheep. And, when all that relaxing makes you thirsty, no worries — your personal butler will fix you a drink.

Anantara Kihavah Villas, Baa Atoll, Maldives
Here at Anantara Kihavah, the luxurious villas themselves are above water and come complete with walk-in wardrobes, pearly tiled bathrooms, and beds with sea views. The underwater experience arrives at dinner: Sea, a glass-walled restaurant three meters below the water, serves seasonal five-course lunches and four-course dinners and houses the world's first underwater wine cellar.

Utter Inn, Vasteras, Sweden
It’s not just luxury islands that have underwater hotels. Utter Inn looks like any other traditional red house you’ll see in Sweden, except it floats on Lake Malaren. Guests are shuttled across the lake by boat to the single-room hotel, which boasts a fully submerged bedroom and a private outdoor deck up top. When night falls, descend into the cozy (albeit sparsely decorated) underwater dwelling, and bask in the view — the space features impressive panoramic windows on all sides.

Atlantis, The Palm, Dubai
Atlantis, Dubai’s accommo-tropolis on The Palm, has two ultra-exclusive, tucked away underwater suites for discerning guests willing to pay the price. Both of the luxurious three-story suites feature floor-to-ceiling windows overlooking the Ambassador Lagoon. You can even bathe with the fish, thanks to the underwater en suite bathroom — and, in keeping with the luxury theme, the bath amenities are made with real gold.

Huvafen Fushi, North Malé Atoll, Maldives
Here at the private island resort of Huvafen Fushi, luxury is the name of the game. Although the rooms themselves are above water, the hotel is home to the world's first underwater spa. After a morning of snorkeling with bannerfish and fairy basslets, treat yourself to some first-class pampering, served up with seriously spectacular marine views. Make sure to book your service in one of the two rooms with glass walls, and find out what it's like to get a massage while gazing out across the ocean floor.

The Manta Resort, Pemba, Zanzibar
Africa is famous for its safaris, so how about an underwater version, where you can explore coral reefs and marine life from the comfort of your bed? Tanzania’s breathtaking Manta Resort is quite possibly the coolest boutique hotel in the world. It’s a tri-level suite that floats in the middle of the sea, with a sundeck up top and a surface-level deck for dining and lounging. Down below, the tastefully appointed bedroom is a fully submerged glass box, four meters below the ocean's surface, with unobstructed views of the thriving coral reef. Just imagine lying in bed while tropical fish swim around your head.

Lovers Deep, Caribbean
For a cool $136,000 a night, the ultimate underwater couple's experience can be yours at Lovers Deep, a luxe submarine that accommodates two and can be anchored off the Caribbean island of your choice. Complete with champagne on arrival, speedboat transfers from the beach, and an optional Barry White soundtrack (er, okay), it's a romantic and unique way to see colorful Caribbean marine life. Granted, the emphasis seems to be more on giving guests the opportunity to join the Mile-Below Club than to observe the spectacular coral reefs, but there's nothing wrong with that.

Conrad Maldives Rangali Island, Rangali Island, Maldives
With eight restaurants, four bars, and two award-winning spas, Conrad Maldives Rangali Island (set across two separate islands in the Maldives) is world-class all the way. The resort itself is positively sublime, as are the stunningly spacious villas, with private plunge pools and floor-to-ceiling sea-view windows. But, all of that is secondary to the resort’s premier highlight, Ithaa Restaurant, one of the most extraordinary dining venues in the world. Guests are taken 16 feet below the ocean's surface to the restaurant, where Maldivian-Western fusion dishes are served alongside champagne cocktails in a glass-domed structure — with uninterrupted views of the marine life, of course.

Jules’ Undersea Lodge, Key Largo, Florida
It may not be the most glamorous spot, but Jules’ Undersea Lodge credits itself with being the original underwater accommodations, developed long before the luxury-tourism boom. Housed in a former 1970s laboratory, the converted two-bedroom guest house is parked off the coast of Key Largo, 21 feet below the water's surface. The only way to get there is by scuba-diving to the hatch — so you might want to travel light. When you've made it inside, you'll find all the facilities of modern life (air conditioning, hot showers, DVD players, and so on), while you marvel through 42-inch windows at the sea life floating by outside. It's ideal for explorers and adventurers, or anyone looking to do the underwater-hotel thing on a budget: A single person can spend a night at Jules for $675. Yep, it's steep compared to a regular hotel, but compared to the more upscale underwater alternatives, it's a steal.

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The Must-Have New Apps This Week

The App Store can feel like an overgrown jungle sometimes: Every day, it seems like there are a hundred new apps to filter through. While you want to check them out, it's hard to know what's worth your while (and your precious home screen space). Well, Refinery29 is here to help. Each week, we're going to highlight the five best new apps, on any major mobile platform. 

This week, we've got new options for getting your daily dose of the news, some big iOS apps that have finally made their way to Android, and an app that will help you figure out your innate talents, so you can better succeed in your career. 

Click through for our picks — you could find your new favorite. 

Instagram Layout for Android
Instagram’s creative collage-making app, Layout, is now available on Android. The free app lets you select up to nine photos and arranges them in a variety of different layouts you can choose from. You can also flip, mirror, or swap out images before you import the finished product to Instagram for posting. The app interface is almost identical to the iOS version, which launched about two months ago.

For combining multiple photos into a single, composite image, Layout is one of the cleanest, easiest apps we’ve tried.

Thinking Talents
Here’s an app you MUST download: Thinking Talents (free on iOS), made by Levo. This quiz-style app susses out what your career strengths are based on the way you think, so you can make the most of those talents in your career. Levo explains that a “thinking talent” is something innate, like a love of learning or an inclination towards innovation, rather than something learned. After going through 35 talents, the app will analyze your best traits and help you figure out how to take advantage of them in your work. You can also compare your thinking talents with those of friends or colleagues, to see how you can best work together.

Microsoft Office For Android
Microsoft released its Office suite — Word, PowerPoint, and Excel — for iOS and Android tablets late last year, and now the software trio is finally available for Android phones, too. If you use Microsoft Office at work or at home, you’ll definitely want to give it a download so you can easily compose and edit Word documents, spreadsheets, and PowerPoints on the gol. The apps share a similar feel and design to Microsoft’s other Office versions (mobile and desktop), and they let you comment and track changes. The free apps are currently in beta and are invite-only.

NewsGIF
There are a thousand apps out there for delivering the news: Some are publication-specific, like the New York Times or Wall Street Journal apps; some arrange the news into a beautiful, magazine-inspired interface (like Flipboard). Others focus on giving you just a basic, time-saving summary (like Yahoo News Digest). The latest news aggregation app to land in the App Store takes a decidedly more fun approach. NewsGIF (Free on iOS) pairs the day’s biggest news stories with user uploaded (and upvoted) GIFs. The app says it’s “bite-sized news that is easy to digest,” and with it, you also get a healthy dose of entertainment. You can tap into a story to upvote your favorite GIF representation for the headline, and once logged in, you can submit your own.

As the app is brand new, there’s often just one GIF per post, but you can change that. This may be our new favorite way to get the news each morning.

Perfect Workout
Windows Phone users, you’re slowly seeing more quality apps land on your platform. One of the latest is Perfect Workout (Free). Based on the idea of squeezing in a short but quality workout into your crazy-busy schedule, Perfect Workout acts like a personal trainer on your phone, guiding you through exercises for a 10-minute, total-body workout you can do from home. The app includes a timer for each exercise, and cute, minimalist animations to show how each move is done. You can also set reminders if you’d otherwise forget to squeeze this toning session into your day. Similar apps are available on iOS, Android, and even the Apple Watch, but Perfect Workout is specifically designed for Windows Phone.

Read on for the best new apps from the previous week.

Bleep
Looking for a messaging client that’s truly, actually private? BitTorrent’s Bleep may be the answer. Bleep (Free on iOS, Android, and the desktop) lets you text, send photos, and make voice calls without giving out any personal details. Nothing is stored on a server or in a cloud (Bleep doesn’t use any central servers), so the only copy of the message is between you and the recipient. For sexting — cough, we mean, “private messages” — the app has a “Whisper” mode where the text and images disappear from both devices after 25 seconds. While the app can’t prevent your recipient from taking a screenshot of your message, it does obscure it: The app either blurs the name of the sender or the image — you can only see one at a time. It’s definitely an interesting take on messaging privacy.

WifiMapper
Finding a quality coffee shop to work from that has tasty coffee, ample outlets, and good WiFi is nearly impossible. While it can’t help you with the first two, a new WiFi-finding app called WifiMapper (free on iOS) can at least help you find a spot with a quality connection. It’s got a database of more than 500 million hotspots across the globe, with comments from Foursquare users and WifiMapper users about each locale, so you can find a place whose wireless network doesn’t crawl along like a dial-up connection.

Splice 3.0
Splice (free on iOS ) is a video and slideshow editing app. As the name might suggest, it makes it easy to “splice” together clips from your camera roll — and, as the 3.0 suggests, it’s not a brand new addition to the App Store, but it is a fresh version. You can edit together videos with a variety of effects (like filters, text overlays, and transitions), and choose from an expanded music selection to accompany your creation. You can record your voice to act as narration for your video or slideshow, and for the latter, the app automatically zooms and pans around the photo for a polished finish. A lot comes baked into the app, but it also has in-app purchases if you decide you want more visual or sound effect choices.

Déjà Vu
Here’s an interesting app you can bring with you on your travels, or the next time you take an afternoon stroll through your city. Déjà Vu ($2 on iOS) is an augmented reality app that lets you use your phone’s camera and GPS to explore the world through old photographs. The app helps you navigate to the exact place where a photographer stood, and then you can compare the scene today with what a photographer captured 50 or 100 years ago. It can also notify you when you’re walking near a photographic site, like Fenway Park or Penn Station. Right now, it’s only populated with photos from New York, Boston, and Washington, DC, but more should arrive in the future.

Snap Me Up
If you have trouble waking up in the morning, it might be time to try a unique solution like Snap Me Up (Free on Android). This app pits you with the enviable task of taking a selfie before the alarm shuts off. You read that correctly: The alarm keeps blaring until its facial recognition algorithm detects your bleary-eyed mug in the morning sunshine. The UI is fun and colorful, and the app allows you to share your morning snaps, if you so desire (we’ll stick with deleting those pics IMMEDIATELY). Right now the app does have occasional ads, but a future update to the app will give you the option to get rid of those with an in-app purchase.

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My Life With Orthorexia

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Jordan Younger is a longtime supporter of The Anti-Diet Project and a blogger with her own fascinating journey. She made headlines last year after revealing something deeply personal about her own health and lifestyle change. This week, she's generously offered to share her story with us. - KM

Going vegan seemed like the answer to all my problems. 

I adopted the diet in my last semester of college, hoping to remedy the lifelong indigestion issues I'd dealt with. Incredibly, it seemed to work. Eating only plant-based foods eased the extreme bloating and discomfort I was used to, and suddenly I felt lightness in my stomach. It was amazing. Veganism gave me a feeling of physical wellness and complete control. But, it had triggered an even deeper issue — one I didn't even know existed.

By the time I graduated, my dedication to the plant-based diet had evolved into obsession. I had started an Instagram account, @theblondevegan, chronicling my vegan adventures, and posted photos of bright, colorful salads and mason jars filled to the brim with blended, green concoctions. I was proud to share my lifestyle, and found there was a huge hunger for knowledge about vegan food in the online community.

Next came the blog, where I shared recipes and chatted with my growing audience. I couldn't believe that people were so interested in learning about my lifestyle, and my own passion was so great that I was happy to sit in front of the computer all day answering emails and guiding people toward a plant-based life.Then, I moved to New York to pursue an M.F.A. in creative writing. But, once I arrived, there was only one thing on my mind: veganism. Suddenly, juice bars were offering me cleanses in exchange for reviews on my website, and after six months of paying a pretty penny for cleanse programs, there was no way I was turning them down. I started cleansing for three days a week nearly every week, and sometimes more.

But, something had changed: Every time I reintroduced solid food after cleansing, my old stomach problems returned — even though I kept the food strictly plant-based. Though it terrified me, I wasn't willing to admit that veganism might not be the cure-all I'd imagined. Instead, I started avoiding solid food more and more, until I had so much eating anxiety that I was an absolute wreck to be around.

I tried to hide my food fears when I was with other people — and veganism was the perfect cover. Rather than admit my food phobia, I could just claim it was too hard to eat out as a vegan. Meanwhile, the cycle continued: I cleansed, got too hungry, broke down and ate solid food, felt terribly guilty, and rededicated myself to another cleanse — usually a longer one. With my family across the country and my growing The Blonde Vegan brand, I was able to keep my charade up for much longer than I should have. 

Photographed by Tynan Daniels.

But, come spring of 2014, there was no hiding it. I was not the picture of health I claimed to be. I couldn't sleep because I was so full of anxiety about what I was going to eat the next day and what foods I had to avoid. My hair was thinning, my skin was a mess (and orange from too much beta-carotene), and my face was gaunter than gaunt. I looked and felt like a shadow of my former self.

The real kicker came when I stopped menstruating. At first I told myself it had nothing to do with the way that I ate, but as the months wore on and nothing came, I started to worry. I had gotten into the vegan lifestyle so I could be the healthiest version of myself, but now I was wreaking havoc on my body, and I knew it. After a major conversation with one of my close friends about her eating disorder, I finally realized that was what I was dealing with, too.

I knew I had a problem, but I didn't have a name for it. My issue didn't fall into the traditional categories of anorexia, bulimia, or binge eating. Mine was an obsession with healthy, pure, clean foods from the earth, and a fear of anything that might potentially cause my body harm. 

As it turned out, there was a name for it: orthorexia. 

Photographed by Tynan Daniels.

Orthorexia is a little-known condition. It's not currently recognized by the DSM-5 as a clinical diagnosis, but many suffer the symptoms: a fixation on purity, and a fear of foods that might derail that “perfection.” Those of us who have a tendency toward extremes in other areas are more susceptible to developing it — especially once we start cutting out entire food groups. 

I knew I needed professional help, and I started working with both a nutritionist and a therapist to deal with the physical and emotional aspects of orthorexia. During my recovery process, I learned that the “superhuman willpower” I'd exercised for so long is a typical eating-disorder warning sign. I was trying to control my life through food, and I believed I was worthy and powerful because I treated my body like a temple (which, to me, meant eating nothing but plants). Once I started to let go of that addiction to emptiness and purity, I started to live again. Slowly but surely, I made strides to get my life back.

I dropped the vegan label shortly after I came to terms with my eating disorder, and that was one of the best things I could have done for myself. Now, I live a label-free life, and I find more power in that than I ever found in my plant-based fanaticism. Instead of food, I wake up thinking about life. I fill my time with great people and personal passions — like my blog, which is now all about balance. Sure, I have scary days around food. A lot of them. But, I am learning, and I am proud of that. I try to listen to my body, be kind to myself, and forgive. I eat when I'm hungry, and I don't eat when I'm not. If I feel like veggies, I have them. If I feel like driving 10 miles for the best cupcake in town, then you bet I'm going to do that. I've found so much freedom in doing this whole balance thing. 

And hey, for the first time in three years, I have stable blood sugar, and I'm not afraid to eat a piece of cake (full of white flour!) on my friends' birthdays. Heck, on my own birthday. I've come a long way, and that's a victory in itself.   


To read more about Jordan's story, check out her brand new book, Breaking Vegan, available for pre-order right now. And, be sure to check out her gorgeous blog and Instagram, The Balanced Blonde.

The Anti-Diet Project is an ongoing series on intuitive eating, rational fitness, and body positivity. You can follow my journey on Twitter and Instagram at @mskelseymiller or #AntiDietProject (hashtag your own Anti-Diet moments, too!). Got a question — or your own Anti-Diet story to tell? Email me at kelsey.miller@refinery29.com. 

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Meet Fangirl of the Day: Elizabeth

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Name of Fangirl: Elizabeth

Fangirl’s Occupation: She is a writer/producer of Promos for AMC networks.

What is her Fangirl interest?

She loves Star Trek a lot. She schools me all the time with episode trivia from Next Generation and Deep Space 9. We watch Game of Thrones together and are excited for the next episode!

Additionally, for Halloween we went as Arrow and The Canary!

We love Arrow and The Flash Universe and watch them all the time.

She is the best Catan player in our board game group and usually wins!

Ohh and lets not forget about Doctor Who! We love watching it together! We even have the Doctor Who version of story night on our wall!

Why did you decide to shine the spotlight on this Fangirl?

She is my girlfriend of three years. We met through my sister.

My sister came up to me one day and said “You will like this girl, She is into all that Star Trek nerd stuff you are into.”

We have been together ever since.

How does this Fangirl express her fandom?

Talks about it and her clothes! She has loads of TARDIS dresses and a Legend of Zelda dress that she loves. She wears her Vader shirt to cons all the time and we have even talked about cosplaying for our next con!

Although She does not know it yet I have begun the process of getting her a ring. Once I have it my hope is that we will be able to share our geekdom till the end of our days.

What is her favorite Fangirl item that she cannot live without?

She just purchased a necklace that she wears all the time now. It says Qapla’ in Klingon! It’s really cool!

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Where Can You Buy Headdress For Sale

You can easily find Indian headdress for sale more and more in the recent years. Flip open a magazine, view major fashion runways, or go to open air concerts and rave parties and chances are, you will spot one of these feathered regalia on top of people’s heads.

The Indian headdress is popular enough to be seen frequently, but still rare that you don’t find a lot of quality made Indian headdresses in commercial stores around the corner. But if you really want to buy a beautiful headdress for sale, Aureus Arts is an online store that sells Indian headdress replicas. Decor and Design has featured Aureus Arts.

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Retail Therapy: The Best Splurges That Came Out Of My Breakups

There's nothing like heartbreak to reveal sides of ourselves we're not always keen to discover. But, thanks to a bevy of dating apps, economy tubs of ice cream, and a few best friends, it's just as easy to get back into the game as it is to get knocked out of it. My go-to cheer-up move has always been to replace something old with something new — and I'm not talking about dates.

I'm a firm practitioner of retail therapy. When I broke onto the dating scene in the fifth grade, kids were pretty much just as vicious as they are today, but rejection was not as hard to cope with and the Do you like me? Check yes or no paper airplanes were pretty easy to get rid of. Heartbreak then meant a night at the roller rink on my parents' dime. But, then as now, when it comes to my relationships (and my shopping habits), if it isn't love at first sight, it's probably not my style. 

From the guy who resented my spending habit to the one whose own wardrobe consisted of stolen garments from boyfriends past, it sometimes feels like I've been through it all. And, as for the guy who stops talking to you after the second date, it's easy to pretend he just woke up one day and died or something. But, I like to turn negatives into positives and commemorate endings with designer duds. When I look back on relationships gone wrong, I see frustration and betrayal and sadness, for sure, but I also see that moto jacket that makes me feel like a star every time I put it on.

Read ahead as I recount every purchase that my closet — and my heart — will never forget.

The Modelizer Recovery Trench
Shortly after moving to New York, I somehow found myself hanging on the arm of a dirty-blonde, six-foot-something politico playboy, going to events, three-day weekending at other people's houses in the Hamptons, and watching him drool over my shoulder at every model that passed by.

It didn't take him long to realize staying with me meant missing out on the next best thing. Fast-forward to one, two, and three breakups later, and it was the end of our run (and the end of the season), so I paid a visit to rag & bone on my way out.

A beautiful, leather-sleeved trench coat had gone further on sale, and I just had to have it.

The Patch-Me-Up Pants
These pants were another great sale find. It was the middle of July, and I'd just rekindled a romance that sparked early and burned fast. Despite all the hiccups, that was the best summer I've ever had.

He was the type of guy who'd say "we" got invited to a party, but then tell the doorman I was his "plus one." I can't remember a time he ever showed up on time to anything we ever did together, honestly, but the final straw was my birthday.

After a week of soul-searching, I gifted myself these 3.1 Phillip Lim patchwork-denim pants and considered my ego repaired. And, now, when I think back on it, I was much happier seeing these pants stroll down the runway for the first time than I was watching him stumble in 45 minutes late.

The That-Stung Wallet
I fell for an even lesser-than-commitment-phobe when I studied abroad in Paris. During those nine months of constant push and pull, my misfortune led me in and out of every boutique Paris had to offer just about every time something went wrong.

I never bought much because of my student budget, but even a walk-through of my favorite designer's section was all it took to get my mind off of this guy's waning capacity to fall in love.

And, since it was Paris, after all, my trip wouldn't have been complete without me getting my wallet stolen at least once, so I bought this Alexander Wang stingray trifold after the city knocked me to my feet one last time. That was the best boyfriend I never had.

The (Di)stress-Reliever Tee
He decided to get back together with his ex after our relationship ended, which, at this point, has ceased to surprise me. My best friend was in town when I got the news and helped me pick out this Iro Paris distressed T-shirt. Since then, it's seen the most wear out of all the things in my wardrobe.

I'm thankful my BFF was there to witness the text-message breakup, because otherwise, I would have spent much more than I needed to, but how else would I have this Kendall Jenner favorite if he hadn't left me so unceremoniously?

The No, It's Actually You Jacket
An essential part of every bad breakup is regaining your sense of self. And, it's no secret that the more apparent our weaknesses are, the more susceptible to manipulation we become.

The guy behind this BLK DNM biker jacket, which was the most splurge-worthy of them all, was an avid player of the blame game. When he cheated, it was somehow my fault. When he forgot our anniversary, I somehow made it "too big a deal."

This jacket is the essence of me. It signifies my reclamation of who I was before our relationship. I was awesome. And, every time I put it on, I feel it.

The All I Got Was This Necklace
Perhaps the most significant out of the lineup, this yellow-gold Helen Ficalora necklace has taken on several meanings.

At first, it signified my only connection to Karlie Kloss, my favorite supermodel of the decade, because she owns the K version. Then, after my now ex-boyfriend gifted me what he dubbed the "masculine" version, I returned it and used his credit card to pay for the "feminine" upgrade.

Lastly, after he cut me out of his life via email two weeks after he promised me he never would, it now feels like something I bought for myself. I've since added an evil-eye charm to it in the hopes it will guide me down the streets of New York that are ex-boyfriend-free (which is better than any diamond, if you ask me).

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